6 Rules For Being Kinky In Bed Without Losing Self-Respect

Here are 6 ways to increase passion without losing self-respect:

1. Make Passion A Priority.

You cannot and will not have the kind of red hot relationship you’re craving if you let the rest of your busy life take over the time, energy or space for passion.

It may feel boring to schedule passion in your calendar, but do it anyway. What you and your partner choose to do during that time together can be anything BUT boring.

2. Build Anticipation.

Send flirty texts, write sultry love notes, give lingering kisses and do whatever you can to build up anticipation for what’s going to happen when you two are alone together.

Think of this as prolonged foreplay that utilizes words, looks, non-s*xual and s*xual touches and whatever else your creative mind comes up with.

3. Talk About What You Like.

It can be a form of prolonged foreplay to tell your partner what turns you on and what feels good (and also what doesn’t).

Don’t expect him or her to be a mind reader! Talk specifics about your lovemaking and be sure to bring up what you’d like to try.

4. Take Turns.

Whether you and your partner are experimenting with dominance and submission or anything else, make sure you’re mixing things up and that you take turns. Don’t always play the same role when you’re intimate with another, and this includes which of you initiates s*x.

5. Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone.

If you want more passion in your relationship, you’re probably going to have to get a little bit uncomfortable.

This means something different for everybody. For you, maybe stepping out of your comfort zone involves telling your partner which position you enjoy the most when you two make love, dressing up in an enticing costume or incorporating s*x toys.

Keep checking in with yourself to make sure that any discomfort isn’t coming from feeling disrespected or devalued in some way.

6. Appreciate Often And From The Heart.

A prerequisite for more passion (and more healthy connection) in your relationship is appreciation.

As un-sexy as it sounds, a genuinely spoken “Thank you” or “I’m grateful that you’re in my life” forms a foundation upon which the kind of excitement you’ve been wanting can easily spring.

Source: YourTango